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You Know You’re a Black American Princess (or BAP) When…
Hello BAP. You’re a woman people know and love. But sometimes your high maintenance ways can fluster your family and friends on more than one occasion. You’re a diva, but usually the good kind. Some of you may protest at the label, some of you may embrace it with arms wide open, some of you just aren’t sure. Here are some clues for those of you who are on the fence about where you stand.
You pray to the BAP patron saint Beyonce before every date for marriage proposals and future Blue Ivy’s.
You have participated in and attended at least 10 debutante balls in your lifetime.
Your idea of roughing it is drinking tap water.
College and a well paying job are not a maybe, but a must. Your parents INSIST.
You are intelligent, financially independent and extremely capable of taking care of yourself…………..but you still want to get married
You know that brunch is an always not a sometimes.
Daddy doesn’t allow any man through the door who isn’t pursuing an advanced degree. If he isn’t, having attended an HBCU for undergrad will do.
An ESQ, MD, PhD, or CPA at the last name of an eligible bachelor is like catnip for the single BAP.
You have been a member of Jack and Jill since birth.
You know never to show out in public or ruin in any way your family’s good name.
You come from a long line of BAPs. Your great grandmother managed to be a BAP even during the Great Depression!!
While attending your predominantly white grade schools your white peers often labeled you as “different.”
You navigate through racially diverse social and professional scenes with the greatest of ease.
Rain and swimming pools are not your friend.
You can spot another BAP from fifty feet away or less.
There are only two. Count them, two, acceptable sororities to join in college. And, if you are a true BAP you know which ones they are.
Since you’ve turned 21 every birthday call you’ve received from your mother starts with “Happy Birthday. When are you getting married?”
And, the final clue? You laughed and shook your head yes to every single statement on this list.
Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal. Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep travelling honestly along life’s path.
— Street Smarts: A Learning Process: 11 Things to Know at 25(ish)